Dear Christian Woman, It’s Time to Grow Up

Dear Christian Woman It's time to Grow Up

Yes, Ma’am. That’s you.

When you were saved, I wonder if you sat at Jesus’ feet for a while and reveled in the awesomeness of this new, indescribable, unending, all healing, all powerful love you found in your Saviour? I hope you did because that’s exactly what you should have done. That’s exactly where you belonged. That’s exactly where He wanted you.

I trust you enjoyed the knowledge of being His princess while you were being fed the spiritual milk of His love that you so desperately craved. Today, I hope you thrive in that knowledge while still being lavished with His love.

In 1 Peter 2:2 you are told to “crave pure spiritual milk.” First Corinthians 3:1-2 says you are given “milk, not solid food for you were not ready for it.”

Then in Hebrews 6:1-2 you are told to “leave the elementary teachings about Christ and go on to maturity.” Ephesians 4:14-15 says to “no longer be infants…Instead,…in all things grow up into Him”.

Plain and simple, we’re being called to grow up. We can’t forever stay in that first knowledge of Him. We know that.

So, as all Christians do, we pray to be made like Jesus. We want to be “transformed into His likeness” as 2 Corinthians 3:18 says, but somehow we do not realize that the transformation into His likeness is not a future event. Instead, it is a present activity. 

Its a way of life.

Maybe you have a less than ideal marriage. As Christian wives we are called to do good to our man even when he isn’t good. Proverbs 31:11-12 “she does him good and not evil all the days of her life.”

Maybe you have a child who is forever pushing every single button you’ve got. As Christian mothers we are called to be patient and self-controlled, displaying an attitude of Jesus.

When that neighbor allows his dog to poop on your lawn, do we, in a gentle and peace-loving attitude go out there and ‘scoop the poop’?

Pun intended, because a whole lot of a humble Christ honoring life involves ‘scooping the poop’ – doing what others won’t. Honoring others above ourselves. Displaying a servants heart when we are both in a position of authority or in the mundane of everyday life.

As a Christian women, we say we believe what is written in Gods book and, oh yes! We want to do His will, but when it comes right down to the nitty-gritty, we’re just too proud. We are appalled that our faith be called to action over something like cleaning up after our neighbor’s dog.

We’d rather shout our God’s name from the rooftops, become a household name or start that new ministry. But we can’t minster to the hearts of those in your very home.

Listen Christian women, if we’re married, our first ministry is to our husband. Our children are a close second. If we can’t humbly serve and minister to them first, then we have no business venturing on to other things. No business whatsoever.

Christian women. We are being called to step up to the plate and put that living, breathing Word of God we hold in our hands, into action.

Walk that extra mile…. Do that extra thing…. Say that extra kind word.

Y’all, it’s time to grow up.

It’s time to get our derrieres off our cushy little thrones, take off the crowns that say, “I’m a princess & you’re not so I can’t serve you”, strap on some hip waders, buckle up that belt and go do that work of God we keep talking about.

I want to see some of that.

Real women, living real lives, showing off the real Jesus.

Grow up. In Him.


  1. Heather @ My Overflowing Cup says:

    I am so happy to be growing in Him. I remember when I was a baby Christian and the way I thought and acted. I was on milk, but now I am on meat and it is a wonderful place to be. Thank God for His mercy. May we all grow up in Him for His kingdom and His glory. Thanks for the post, Kaylene.

    • Kaylene Yoder says:

      It's hard sometimes to rise above the current situations. But He makes us bold and stouthearted, courageous to do His work. Giving kids responsibility makes me nervous sometimes. I don't want them to mess up like I did, but then I also realize padding them will also inhibit them from experiencing His grace for themselves. Mine are still young and their responsibility levels still small.

  2. Kim Adams Morgan says:

    It is so easy to get comfortable where you are in your faith and not grow. But we must if we are to continue to mature. His Word always reveals new truths as we study it. Great post.

  3. Sarah Ann says:

    Beautiful, convicting reminder to let go of complacency and to allow God to grow me in his wisdom. I was so convicted about growing right where I am, not waiting for the "bigger opportunities" to come along. May my ministry first start at home and then extend to others out of the overflow of his love for me! Many blessings from! I would be honored if you

  4. Karen Brown says:

    Amen! What a great message for all of us who tend to get a little soft in our culture of princesses. We definitely need to get our "derriere off our cushy little throne" and be willing to work.. hard. I think that sometimes we cheapen grace and use it as an excuse to not grow. This is a great word, and well-crafted. Thanks for sharing !

    • Kaylene Yoder says:

      "be willing to work..HARD" exactly right! I too believe we have become so coddled and padded that we are hanging on to a cheapened, watered down grace. We inhibit Him from giving us even the smallest glimpse of it, because we are so busy hoarding it for ourselves. We have an askewed view of things that says, I am here because I deserve to be, when really we are here because He deserves

  5. Betsy Cruz says:

    I love this sentence Kaylene: "the transformation into His likeness is not a future event. Instead, it is a present activity." So true that we think of transformation as a FUTURE EVENT, but our transformation is affected by our day to day choices. I want to be a real woman living a real life to show off the real Jesus! Visiting you from Meredith Bernard's blog here today!

    • Kaylene Yoder says:

      I like that too! When I was writing it, I felt conviction and anointing. I never cease to be amazed at what He makes come out of my pen. I could never have thought that up myself! So, I claim it for myself as much as I've prayed others would claim it for themselves. Blessings!

  6. Mary Hill says:

    Ok, the dog poop thing stuck. I will deal with humbleness the next time the neighbor&#39;s dog poops in my yard. Luckily, it has not happened yet. I guess God knows what I can bear. LOL. I loved the thought-provoking parts of this. We are called to maturity, service, and love. Great reminders throughout. :)<br /><a href="; rel="nofollow">Mary-andering

  7. Kimberly David says:

    Thank you for the wonderful reminder, especially your words at the end. So often we are longing for the limelight ministries, but failing to have the faith and humility to to the mundane, the lowly tasks around us.

  8. De Yarrison says:

    At 45 years old, 15 years into marriage, kids becoming teenagers, I&#39;m finally getting this whole &quot;die to self, live for Christ&quot; thing. It&#39;s not about me. None of it! Which is so liberating. Praise God. May we live fully for Him and His glory. God bless you. <br />I found your post via the Thought Provoking Thursday Link-up.

  9. Christine says:

    Came over from A Wise Woman…<br />Glad I did! You know how to rattle the cages and shake us up. (Oh, and that&#39;s a good thing)<br />I&#39;ll be back!

  10. Laura Thomas says:

    Whoa! I feel all geared up and ready to get my big girl pants on! Thanks so much for this- it&#39;s SO easy to get comfy with the milky, safe stuff, when we are called to chow down on steak and seriously get out there… Very glad I stopped by from CMB 🙂

  11. Sharita Knobloch says:

    Daggum… Way to lay the smack down, Kaylene! &quot;Grow&quot; is my One Word for 2014 and it is has been wonderful (while also painful) to experience God grow me this year. I growing more and more intentional about being like Jesus in my marriage and call as a mother. It isn&#39;t easy, but it is worth it. Thanks for the powerful pep talk 🙂

  12. bluecottonmemory says:

    There does come a point where we have to take what we learn – and use it – like a soldier who has been trained has to use it when he goes to war – and you have to trust it works! If you&#39;re not using God&#39;s training – well, I don&#39;t know how I would survive!

  13. Jill R. says:

    Oh my! Yes! Thank you!<br /><br />Thank you for stopping by the Thoughtful Spot Weekly Blog Hop this week. We hope to see you drop by our neck of the woods next week!<br /><br />

  14. JES says:

    Well said and directly to the point! Thank you for sharing this pep talk on the Art of Home-Making Mondays! 🙂 Please join in again this week…

  15. Misty Leask says:

    It isn&#39;t often I find such a real post from another blogger. Thank you for being so honest and straight forward, I need this post today. &lt;3 Thank you so much for linking up this great post at Family Fun Friday. I will be featuring it on my blog at this week&#39;s link up. Blessings, Misty

  16. chris thompson says:

    Congratulations! This was one of the top read posts on the link up last week at<br />, and it was featured this week! I hope you will come link up more.<br />God bless.<br />

  17. Susannah says:

    What a beautiful post! It&#39;s absolutely the truth. We can&#39;t just sit and drink in the milk, we need to get to the meat!!! 🙂 Thanks for linking up with the Faith and Fellowship blog hop! 🙂

  18. Anonymous says:

    The title of this post caught my eye, because this is what I sensed the Lord saying to me. &quot;Time to grow up&quot;. Grow up past getting upset at things, grow up past it being all about me, grow up past living by my feelings, grow up into Christ. Very exciting!

  19. Rachael DeBruin says:

    This is honestly a very real and wonderful reminder to all of us. It was sort of a mix of &#39;ouch&#39; and &#39;yes, agree!; for me today :)<br />I know there are areas I can still grow in, but I continue striving to become more like Him. Thanks for sharing!! <br />PS If you&#39;re into link ups, I&#39;d love/be honoured to have you share this post on this week&#39;s Inspired By Me Mondays!!!

  20. Janice says:

    I love this! This is the honesty that we need to hear as women. So many truths here and I got my fair share of it. God bless you Kaylene!

  21. Kelsey Ferguson says:

    Kaylene, this is SO good! I have read it twice, now. I need to grow up. Sharing this all over. And by all over I mean on Facebook and Pinterest. Ha! 🙂 Enjoy your weekend, friend! 🙂

  22. Lauren English says:

    I love your humor and sassiness in this! 🙂 I totally agree and have seen this in my own life. In the last decade since I really started following Jesus I’ve seen so many seasons where He has challenged and reminded me I can’t stay in that “first love” and experience forever….our relationship has to deepen and grow, even when that growth hurts. Thanks for sharing this!

  23. Heather @ My Overflowing Cup says:

    I’m re-reading this post, Kaylene, and imagining what the world would be like if we all strived to live with hearts like this.

    Thanks, again, for the challenging encouragement! May He continue to fill your cup to overflowing.

  24. Rene D says:

    Nice post!! I think in Christ we are always growing (even after we have grown up). When I was a baby Christian I was given a visual of a little tree being held up by the sticks to keep it growing straight – then as it gets older you have to remove the sticks or growth will be diminished. Christianity is the same way – we are given tools to hold us up in the beginning but as we grow up, we have to let go of those tools and use God’s grace to be strong 🙂

  25. Jo Wilmer says:

    Oh Amen dear sister….it is about growing spiritually from a babe in Christ to a servant of Christ. His command is to go and tell, not to go and share DIY and recipes. Not that there is anything wrong with those things, I love them, but my first focus should be pointing others and leading others to His message of salvation. Then the choice is there. Have a blessed day, JO.

  26. K. Dusi says:

    Needed this for a while. I’ve been getting quite princess-y here for a while now but this really helped me to snap out of it. I was searching for something to redirect my path and found it! ??

  27. Kate says:

    Psalm 45 discusses women maturing through their new relationship with their husbands. ‘Forget your father’s house’ (give up your role as a princess, and take on your role as queen) the latter part of the psalm portrays femininity, influence/diplomacy, honor, and maturity as desirable traits for women and as the church to take on.

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