Protecting Your Husbands Heart: Part 4

If you are just now joining this mini series, I’m so glad you’ve found your way here! We are exploring what God would have a wife do to be her husbands “ezer kenegdo”.
If that term is unfamiliar, you may want to take the time to understand this beautiful truth. You can find it here. I trust you will be encouraged reading what God meant when He called the woman a “help meet” or “helper suitable”.
Today is probably the most challenging for me:
4. Forgive your husband.

The surest way to drive a wedge into your marriage, is to hold grudges. 
“Be kind and compassionate to one another,
forgiving one another,
just as Christ forgave you.”
~Ephesians 4:32~

Bear with each other and 
forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another.
Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
~Colossians 3:13~
How does the Lord forgive us? Wholly and completely.
In fact, He removes them “as far as the east is from the west.” ~Psalm 103:12~
He even says He “will remember their sins no more.” ~Hebrew 8:12~
It is crucial to willingly and continuously practice forgiveness. Holding on to things your husband has done or said will do 4 things:
1.cultivate bitterness ~Hebrews 12:15~
2. exasperate him ~Proverbs 12:25~
3. hinder your prayers ~1 Peter 3:7~
4. shows you do not love Jesus ~John 14:24~ 
Dear wife, forgive early. Forgive often. Forgive completely. The grace Christ has extended to you, and extends to you daily…through that, won’t you extend the same to your husband?
He who covers over an offense promotes love,
but whoever repeats the matter
separates close friends.”
~Proverbs 17:9~
A husbands heart cannot safely trust in his wife if she is continually reminding him of his mistakes, ways he hurts her, or things he has said. He will never be able to be completely at ease with her, afraid whatever he does will be used against him later. The “silent treatment”, the “guilt trip”, and the “you hurt me so much” look on our faces, all come into play here.
An anxious heart weighs a man down,
but a kind word cheers him up.”
~Proverbs 12:25~
Just as Jesus extended grace to us on the cross, so should we extend grace to our husbands. 

Today start removing the cloud of anxiousness hovering over your home by forgiving him, then vowing to never use that wrong against him again. 

I’d love to have you come back for a virtual coffee break for your homemaker’s heart!
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  1. Sheila at Longings End says:

    Hi Kaylene — so glad I clicked on your post from Nan's link up. GREAT reminders. And I LOVE your post on being an ezer kenegdo. Will be sharing it both. Hope you get a chance to stop by Longings End sometime. PS Would love to hear your Amish story when and if you are lead. Thanks and blessings…

    • Kaylene Yoder says:

      Hi, Sheila! So glad you found your way to this little spot. Thank you for your kind words, but mostly for sharing! Humbled! Blessings to you, fellow "ezer kenegdo"!

  2. Tia Martin says:

    Thank you so much for this post! For me this is a hard 1 to swallow because it challenges me in this area of forgiveness towards my husband. We are a young couple married with children. We don't have many examples of what a Godly marriage is so this post is a blessing to me because it helps me keep my focus on what matters instead of my emotions. I know the Lord is more interested in changing

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