Speaking Your Approval

You love your husband.

You know it, he knows it, your kids know it, your friends and family know it….

But, sometimes in the day to day ruts of routine, you just take it for granted that everybody knows. I mean, you’re still here with him! So, that should be proof enough that you love him, honor him, respect him….all the good wife stuff, right?

WRONG.

Things your husband longs to hear from you

He needs to hear you say it. A man likes that kind of thing. He won’t ask for it. He might not even know he craves your approval.

But, he does.

And, one thing he does know is that when you praise him, life seems a bit more do-able. Things look a little bit easier. He likes that feeling; that feeling of acceptance.

You should be the one making him feel that way.

So, pick one of the following phrases, and drop it on him just because he’s your man.

Note, “just because he’s your man”. 

That should be enough for him to deserve a kind word.

Pick one! Say it! Mean it! Do it again!

 

What Every Husband Wants to Hear from his Wife

#1. It will be OK.

This tells him you share the load of whatever life has brought.

That pile of bills. That unexpected vehicle expense. That medical emergency or health issue…whatever it is, it will be OK. You’re there for him.

If the issue is self inflicted… it’s still OK. He’s probably embarrassed enough at his mistake. He doesn’t need you to take a jab at him.

This will tell him you’re still on his team. You’ll get through this together, and be stronger because of it.

“An anxious heart weighs a man down,
but a kind word cheers him up.”
~ Proverbs 12:25 ~
 
#2. Thank you for your hard work.

You like being appreciated. So does he. Part of a mans physique is to provide and protect. Carrying this burden then adding an unappreciative wife is like pouring salt on a wound. Thank him for his efforts and watch his morale be boosted enough to last a whole week or more. He might even be moved to finish that landscaping project he started a year ago!

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This verse made me smile a few days ago.

Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love,
all the days of your meaningless life
that God has given you under the sun-
For this is your lot in life
and in your toilsome labor under the sun.”
~Ecclesiastes 9:9~
 

Make it easy for him to enjoy his “lot” of loving you, providing for you and protecting you by letting him hear that you approve of his efforts.

 

#3. Thank you for loving me.

Let’s get it straight…you’re not always the cuddliest cactus to love on.

This tells him that you think he’s something special to still find you lovable. It also tells him he’s doing it right. He likes knowing he makes your heart happy.

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#4. I’m proud of you.

Well….aren’t you? If not, you should be.

He longs to know you approve of him- that you accept his flaws with his perfections.

While the rest of the world will pounce on his first wrong move or tear him up about past mistakes, with you, he is approved of and appreciated. His heart can safely trust in you. A man finds much peace and rest in that knowledge.

So go tell him you’re proud of him, just the way he is.

Because he’s your man.

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Which one are you going to speak to your husband today? Or, share what you tell your husband to encourage him.

Lesson 5 of this Bible Study teaches more on this subject.

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32 comments

  1. Elizabeth says:

    I find your words on marriage so encouraging! It is easy to get caught up in the day to day and forget to be purposeful in encouraging our husbands. <br /><br />Thank you for linking-up with Beauty Observed! It is so nice to have you participate.

    • Kaylene Yoder says:

      I found it so interesting at how my husband appreciates a compliment on his appearance. It&#39;s not just us ladies! 😉 Thank you for sharing what you tell your husband! Blessings!

  2. Sharita Knobloch says:

    Just a couple of minutes ago, I was chatting with my mom on the phone and realized just how dang awesome my hubby really is… Life is crazy busy with his army schedule right now and I have noticed that most of our time at home in the even (albeit rare) is usually spent strategizing or putting out scheduling fires. <br /><br />I need to speak more words of affirmation to him JUST BECAUSE HE IS MY

  3. Betsy Cruz says:

    Hi Kaylene! I love this post. It&#39;s full of great reminders. We so easily forget how our husband&#39;s need words of affirmation, and that&#39;s one of my husband&#39;s love languages! <br /><br />I&#39;m going to thank my husband for loving me (because I&#39;m one spiney cactus) and I&#39;m sharing this on facebook and twitter!

  4. strainme says:

    It is so easy to think they don&#39;t care about hearing those things because they (at least my husband) don&#39;t react like we do when receiving compliments. Great reminder!

  5. Life Breath Present says:

    I say all these things and more to Hun. I love doing so, because they&#39;re all true. He appreciates that I tell him these things as well. I know it helps us to keep our relationship strong because even if we&#39;re disagreeing or not getting along about something for a time, we can still love each other and honor each other through the difficult. :)<br /><br />Swinging over from Together on

  6. Dawn says:

    Kaylene you made me smile with this. I have a dear friend who repeats your phrase, &quot;because He&#39;s my man!&quot; after everything she does for her husband and it always makes me laugh. Seriously, you have shared necessary truths that we wives need to remember. We need to encourage, we need to listen, we need to respect, we need to honor, we need to be willing to love in all things. And

  7. Cheryl says:

    Great encouragement. Since I need a kick-in-the-pants reminder to express gratitude (not that I don&#39;t feel it, I often forget to express it), I have &quot;thank husband&quot; in my todo list. I am wow&#39;ed by the impact of a &quot;thanks for…&quot; in his life.

  8. Jo says:

    This is a great list to make a habit of speaking our hubbies. Thanks for sharing this and I’m sooooo happy to see you in Arabah’s bbc! Thank you for allowing me to glean from you by being so transparent.

  9. Laideen Dockery says:

    This is so helpful… you’re absolutely right… sometimes we forget to say the things that really matter. I will definitely be putting this into practice. Can’t wait to reap the rewards!

  10. Heather says:

    Absolutely LOVE this post, thanks so much for sharing!! We wives can get so caught up, it’s hard to remember that our husbands need to hear these things despite their go-with-the-flow mentality. 🙂

    -Milk Mama Heather

  11. Pam says:

    Very well said, Kaoline! My husband and I have been married for almost 51 years and I can loudly say “Amen” to each item on your list! Thanks for the reminders!

  12. Racheal says:

    Thank you for this post. I came upon your blog on Pinterest. It has truly been a blessing to me! The words we speak over our husbands can make a difference. Thanks again!

  13. Ann says:

    These are GREAT! Sometimes it helps to have a pre-arranged script, so we can train ourselves to act right before we FEEL like acting right. At least for me…

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