Bible Verses that Shape the way I do Wifehood

Our lives become shaped and molded by the things we read, eat, watch or hear. Anything we ingest will be digested and become apparent by the way we live, respond and act.

The following five verses have helped shape me as a wife over the years. Take a moment to read the lessons they have taught me, then share a few thoughts below.

5 Bible Verses for Wives

1. The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.” Genesis 2:25

Like most women, I have felt hesitation, insecurity and even shame of my sexuality. This can be caused by painful experiences in our past, sin that we may have participated in, an unhealthy understanding of sex, or the general insecurity that women have regarding their bodies.

But this verse says the man and his wife were naked, and they felt no shame. And to top it off, God called all of His creation very good, unclothed people included. In it’s purest, most intimate form, sex is not meant to bring shame. The Land of the Marriage Bed, is a region designed solely for husband and wife to bless and enjoy one another. Naked and without shame, it’s a place meant for fear to be banished, trust to be established and love grow to new heights.

I share much more on this topic in the second lesson of this Bible study.

2. “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each should look not only to their own interests, but also to the interests of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus.” Philippians 2:3-5

Let’s be honest, we all have times when our “selfish ambitions” are the reason we do or say things. But, having ulterior motives, trying to weasel, connive and manipulate to get what we want, is the least desirable way to build trust.

Rather, we should look out for the good of the other person, be genuine, transparent, build each other up and encourage each others interests. This means sometimes we put aside our own interests for the good of our spouse. Having a Christ-like attitude means laying down our own plans, will and dreams and whole-heartedly honoring, encouraging and supporting someone else’s.

These ABCs for Christian Marriage are great reminders on how to be an encouragement to your spouse.

3. “Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of their lives.” 1 Peter 3:1-2

This submission thing stinks sometimes. Especially when we know our husband is wrong in something he is doing. Whether its an unequally yoked marriage, or we just have a hard time seeing things the way he does, what this verse tells wives is that our behavior has a huge impact on our husband. When we live a life that is commendable and honorable, being pleasant mannered toward our husband, we give him a taste of Christ’s goodness.

This can be very hard when we are faced with unkind attitudes or harsh words. But a wise, godly woman knows she is responsible for her own responses*, and does not base them on someone else’s actions.

(*Lesson one of this Bible study elaborates on this.)

4. “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your minds on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” Colossians 3:1-2

Setting my mind on things above helped me gain a broader perspective of God’s plan. Realizing that God truly is in control of it all anyway, helped me put my trust in Him and not my husband. Thinking on the things of the Lord as directed in Philippians 4:8, helped me get a right heart and new attitude toward my husband.

When Jesus became enough, my husband became more than I dared hope he would be. 

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5. “Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up.” Luke 18:1

This parable was about a widow woman who relentlessly brought her case before the judge. As wives, we do our most powerful living at the feet of Jesus. Being persistent about standing in prayer and not giving up has proven to be the one most effective thing in my walk as a wife.

These are a few stand out verses for me. What are some Bible Verses that shape you in your walk as a wife?

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  1. Bella says:

    Kaylene’s, Thank you for your marriage that glorifies God. Ours did not start so good since we were lost. But now we have found Him and love Him. We are so excited for our future, our legacy in Christ! May God richly bless you. You encourage me so much to stay the course. I’m inviting my friends to join me here for the 40 days challenge. Thank you for your heart that overflows the love of Jesus, our Lord. Bella

  2. Vivian says:

    Thank you Kaylene for this challenge on praying for my husband. We’ve been married 30 years and sometimes marriage gets hard even after 30 years. I’m committing this time to really pray that God would change my heart and mind towards my husband. The verse that speaks to me is Phil. 4:8
    To keep my thoughts on whatever is true, lovely, right, pure, noble and praiseworthy.

  3. Maritza Ellis says:

    God is so Good and His timing is so wonderful, leading me to you. We have been married 29 years now, we did divorce for 4 years. We say that time apart was a blessing because we were able to see what caused us to divorce. And God with His timing brought us back together through a health scare in which God used our love we still had for each other to bring him out of the coma he was in. Our love is deeper now and our marriage is good. I know God wants us to be one in Him. So my prayer is that he will be able to see a deeper relationship in my Heavenly Father and want that for himself.
    Thank you, Kaylene for this 40 days of Prayers and Fasting for Wives.
    Maritza, God is Awesome.

    • Kaylene Yoder says:

      What a wonderful testimony of God’s faithfulness. Thank you for sharing it here. I pray your faith and your marriage will be enriched by your journey through the 40-day challenge. Blessings!

  4. Alisha Lockhart says:

    I am a new follower of Christ and my husband and two children are not. These fasting and prayer challenges are helping me to become who Christ needs me to be so that Christ’s love will become evident to my family and 1 Peter 3:1-2 will become real in my family. I am so thankful for you and your message of Christ in your life and our lives as women. I pray for you everyday.

    • Kaylene Yoder says:

      Alisha, thank you for your prayer support. I appreciate you. May you feel the Father’s presence lifting you and guiding you as you grow in your new found faith. 1 Peter 3:1-2 is tough sometimes, but what God instructs us to do He also provides the strength and grace to walk through. Keep your heart focused on Him, sweet one! He never misleads.

  5. Aba says:

    Thank you,Kaylene, for sharing these verses. The verses that have really helped me in my marriage over the years are Phil 4:6-7. Prayer is the key.

  6. Diamond says:

    Thanks for sharing your Love for God and His word through your marriage. I have been praying for two years for God to restore my marriage. I was just about to let it go when I found your 7 day challenge. I’m storming heavens gates for God to heal and restore my marriage. Please join me in prayer thank you!

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